The other day, I asked you on Facebook what you thought were the absolute WORST things to say to a pregnant lady, and here’s what you came up with!
#1 “Woah! Are you having twins?”
#2 “So when are you getting induced?”
#3 “Was it planned???”
#4 “WOW. You look awful/tired!”
#5 “You look like you could pop any minute!”
#6 “You DO know what causes that, right?”
#7 “Are you sure you aren’t due this month??”
#8 “Oh, you’re pregnant? I thought you had just gained a lot of weight.”
#9 “Wow, you look like you ate a whale!”
#10 “I’m glad I’m not you!”
#11 “You don’t need to be superwoman. Just get the drugs next time.”
#12 “Haven’t you had that baby yet?!”
#13 “You’re too young/old to be pregnant.” OR “You’re pregnant? At your age!”
#14 When they say, “Oh…I’m sorry,” when you tell them it’s a girl/boy and you already have one (or more) of the same gender.
#15 “Better get a C-section! You’re HUGE!”
#16 “Are your twins natural or did you take drugs?!”
#17 “OMG. You’re pregnant AGAIN?”
#18 “So you’re done now, right?”
#19 “Can I touch your belly??!” …as they are already touching your belly.
#20 “OMG, my friend, she had, like, the worst birth EVER…” and then proceed to tell you horror stories.
“You already have your hands full, you’re going to be exhausted.” I say “They’re blessings, not a drag!” lol
Not a saying but, when people touch me, don’t like it
When people criticize what I eat or drink (raw milk, pâté, raw cheese, soft cheese, etc)
When people criticize my exercise – I’ve been a yogi for 20 years, yes, I will continue. I will also power walk, climb stairs, swim a mile, etc. I know my body, I do not overdo it.
“You aren’t having the baby at home?” No. No, I am not. My choice, my home is an asylum for nutty people, why in the world woul I feel comfortable there?
And finally, those who push their stories of loss on me. Making me paranoid and stressed out. I’m sorry you lost your baby, I really am, it must have been terrible, but please I’m hormonal and edgy, I don’t need to think about it.
This isn’t so much of a question but when you talk about how happy or excited you are about your child and they say something like i thought you didn’t want children. how is that appropriate? we don’t always plan life the way it turns out but that doesn’t mean we don’t view it as a blessing and that we need to be reminded of our former mentality.
I love this! I wrote an article on my blog about this -http://revolutionarymom.com/what-not-to-say-to-a-pregnant-lady/ . That was my last pregnancy. This time around (I’m 8 mos pregnant) people seem to just stare in disbelief…
“Wow, you’re so little!” Not encouraging to be 8 mos pregnant, feel HUGE… My feet, back, and pubic bone are hurting… And you’re telling me that I’m little.
Right. Not sure if that’s supposed to minimize my experience, be a compliment, or what. But it’s stupid. Lol.
“You know, last I checked they don’t give medals for natural childbirth.”
Yeah, because I’m totally making that decision based on my overwhelming need for recognition from others. *eyeroll*
“It’s a boy!” “Oh, and are you happy with that?!”
I love #6. Usually respond with “why yes! My husband and I do and we like it very much.” Sometimes I throw in “…and we don’t have cable.”
I think the looks the I got were the best when I was pregnant with baby #5, and we would go on family outings with my recently widowed sister and her four children. We both had our children about the same time, so they were very close in ages. People looked at my husband like he was some sort of strange polygamist, and my sister and I would just laugh.
going into 2nd marriage family says “at least you already have 2 kids so you don’t need to have any more.” My husband who didn’t have kids of his own was furious.